A divorce is, almost by definition, a process defined by conflict. Both parties want different things from life, and they might disagree on how best to divide your possessions – and how to decide what action to take where any children are concerned.
If you want the best outcome from your divorce, and to minimise the stress that comes along with the proceedings, then there are a few strategies and principles worth keeping in mind. Let’s assess a few of them.
Open and Respectful Communication
While it might sound obvious, it’s best if you state your wishes and feelings clearly and unequivocally. Don’t be tempted to resort to petty insults, or to lash out – but don’t feel that you need to conceal anything either. In many cases, a frank discussion can help to diffuse tension, provide clarity, and ultimately make the process much smoother going forward.
However, emotions might be running high, and so it might be beneficial to include an impartial third person in your discussion. This person is called a mediator.
The Role of Mediation in Peaceful Divorce
A mediator can help to referee your discussions, and prevent them from turning into arguments. They’ll diffuse tension where tension is mounting, they’ll ask the right questions, and they’ll steer the conversation away from useless tangents and distractions. At their best, they’ll also help to resolve issues before they have a chance to arrive in a courtroom. For this reason, it’s in the financial interests of both parties to consider mediated dispute resolution.
Creating a Fair and Balanced Settlement
First, it’s important to think of divorce as a collaborative process. You’re trying to build the best settlement for both of you. If you think of it as adversarial – or, that one party can only win if the other loses – then the divorce is unlikely to go well.
You might create goodwill by surrendering the things that you don’t really value – and alsoby surrendering things that you do value, but you know that the other person values more.
Seeking Professional Guidance from Solicitors
Most divorces will involve solicitors. If you don’t have the legal expertise to represent your own interests, then you might end up getting a raw deal. However, legal representation comes in many different kinds. Look for solicitors that specialise in amicable divorce proceedings, and you stand a better chance of enjoying an amicable divorce.
Co-Parenting Strategies for a Peaceful Transition
If you’re going to be raising children as a divorced couple, then you’ll need to understand your approach. This can be done through a document called a co-parenting plan, which will set down explicitly how things are going to work.